Since today just so happens to be Valentine’s Day, let’s talk about love…
What is the number one secret to a happy marriage?
Is there really such a thing as one secret to a happy marriage? Yes there is! The answer is simple, but that doesn’t mean that it’s always easy.
My husband and I have been married for only 3 and a half years, but we have been together for 9 years. We are very happy together, because we have a very beautiful relationship. I would marry him again and again.
We learned this along the way, but I thought I would share with you the foundation of our relationship. Our secret to a happy marriage is communication.
The most important thing in any relationship or marriage is to have an open communication with your partner. Isn’t it simple?
Be honest about your feelings!
This might be the hardest step to take, but the most important part of the secret to a happy marriage. But it is really important however, to let your partner know if something is bothering you, or if you are upset. Equally, if you are really happy about something, you should share that too.
It is easy to fall prey to the thought that your partner can read your mind, and know exactly what they did right, or wrong. I fell for this too.
When my husband and I first moved in together before we were married, I wasn’t as good at communicating my feelings. I felt that by sharing those feelings I was admitting defeat in some way. What the heck was I thinking, I’ll never know.
I imagined that my husband knew he was doing something that bothered me and did it anyway, because he didn’t care. In fact, this couldn’t have been further away from the truth.
The truth is that he cared a whole lot. We had to work together, and I had to work on opening up. Feelings are things that we feel. There is absolutely no reason to feel scared or ashamed of them. Instead of suppressing our feelings and emotions, we must acknowledge and properly redirect them.
I am so lucky that my husband was so kind and patient with me during this process. It was worth every effort, and made our marriage that much stronger!
Once I overcame this initial obstacle, we were golden!
Be honest about your dreams
We are so lucky in the fact that we both have similar dreams. We knew this almost from the beginning of our relationship. It really helps having the same goals, but those won’t always align. Talk about your hopes, and talk about your fears in relation to your dreams.
The important thing to remember is that you should know each other’s dreams in order to know what you want to achieve. What do you want? Where do you see yourselves?
From there, make a plan together, and do whatever you can to support one another. Remember that you have chosen to be together as partners, so you will have to work together to get to where you want to go.
There is no one better to do that with, than the person whose life is attached to yours.
Don’t forget who your number one fan is! I know who mine is! 🙂
Be kind to each other
… because you love each other! How could you be any other way? Always remember that words can hurt very badly, and use them carefully.
There is nothing worse than standing in the check-out line at the grocery store and hearing couples yell at each other, putting one another down, or even straight up swearing at each other. Really?! What kind of example is that for their children? I don’t want my child seeing that!
It’s so much better to speak nicely to each other even if you are upset, then trying to backtrack after saying something you regret. The truth is, no amount of apologizing will erase those words from memory.
Be nice! Thank your partner for all the little things he/she does that make you happy! Make sure that their effort does not go unnoticed, because they did it for you!
Speak positively about one another
This is another thing that I find really important. Just like the complainer’s negative energy attracts more reasons to complain about, so does the language about your relationship.
Stay positive my friends, and hold on to that loving feeling!
Dear readers, I hope that this post acts as a little reminder of how much you love your partner, and inspires you to bring more kindness and positivity into your relationship.
Here’s to the secret of a happy marriage!